When a person feels and expresses compassion towards oneself and others, this is a good sign that the heart energy center of the body is open and flowing with strong energy. When a person does not feel compassionate, this may be a sign that multiple energy centers are be closed and need opening. Compassion is defined as the sympathetic consciousness of suffering and a strong desire to alleviate it. Mark 12:31 tells us to love others as ourselves. Building strong heart energy generates compassion which flows both towards oneself and others.
Lack of Compassion
A lack of compassion usually express itself as self-deprecation (talking badly about oneself) and self-deprivation (not taking care of oneself). Many people self-deprecate by belittling (insulting) themselves, often in a joking manner. In addition to being uncompassionate towards oneself, an uncompassionate person tends to express a lack of compassion towards others as well. Self-care is not selfishness, but simply loving oneself as we are commanded to by our Creator.
Verbal Patterns of Self-Deprecation
- I hate the color of my hair.
- I don’t like the shape of my nose.
- I despise being so tall.
- I’d rather have a different ethnic background.
- I don’t like my sense of humor.
Signs of Self-Deprivation
- I don’t need to have a car that works well.
- I’m not worthy of new shoes when I need them.
- I can’t afford good food.
- I don’t deserve to have nice friends.
- I don’t like cleaning up my room.
These types of negative self-deprecating statements will lead to severe ill-feelings towards self if not kept in check. Continual negative self-talk eventually lowers the entire body’s energy level. Long-term self-negativity develops into one of a variety of physical maladies, especially auto-immune disorders and depression. Read more on this topic in the post Energy of Words.
In Philippians 4:11, Scripture teaches that we are to be content whatsoever state we find ourselves. With this being said, turning self-deprecating statements into positive statements is necessary.
Instead of saying, “I hate the color of my hair,” a person could decide to be happy that there is actually hair on their head.
Instead of thinking, “I don’t like the shape of my nose,” a person could try being grateful for being able to smell fragrant flowers and enjoy the pleasant aroma of dinner cooking on the stove.
Instead of not liking one’s height, how about finding the benefits of being tall or short?
Changing one’s ethnic background is not an option, so it is simply a waste of time and energy dwelling on topics like this one, of course.
When it comes to not liking one’s own sense of humor, this can be changed, along with a whole host of other things a person might not like about themselves. Accept the things that cannot be changed and start changing the things that have a good potential of being changed. Life is all about changing for the better and continually improving.
When a person stops self-deprecation, self-deprivation lets go. These two manifestations of a lack of compassion go hand in hand. When the heart changes towards being more compassionate, a person’s environment will improve. When a person is being compassionate towards self, being compassionate towards others will most likely follow!
You shall love your neighbor as yourself. (Mark 12:31)